Thursday, May 13, 2010

Fearful Adoption Questions


Why fearful? Because we ask these questions out of our own fear... so, we are here to show you how God answered all of these questions, when we had them! 


1. What if I can't love them as much? 
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall    not perish but have eternal life." John 3:16


2. What if they don't love me? 
"He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not." Isaiah 53:3


3. It costs too much! 
If your child was kidnapped and the ransom was $30,000... what would you do? 
The cost of our adoption PALES in comparison to the price He paid for mine! 
"The ransom for a life is costly, no payment is ever enough" Psalm 49:8


4. What if they don't 'fit in'? 
We are aliens in a foreign land... called to live IN this world but not to be OF this world! 
"We are aliens and strangers in your sight, as were all our forefathers. Our days on earth are like a shadow, without hope." 1 Chron. 29:15


5. Won't this change your life forever? 
Lord, break our hearts for what breaks yours.... that's what we've been praying and this is where He led us. So, yes... it will change our lives forever. In fact, we're absolutely certain that these children will teach us more than we could ever teach them! 
"Listen, I tell you a mystery: We will not all sleep, but we will all be changed" 1 Corin. 15:51


6. Isn't it too much to give up? 
This world is not our own, we are bought with a price!
"Then Jesus said to his disciples, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me." Matt. 16:24


7. What about biological ties? 
Joseph was not Jesus' biological father, yet he took him in despite the chance of him being ridiculed. 
"When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife." Matthew 1:24


8. What about their 'real' family? 
God has already etched our children on our hearts, He is binding our hearts together. As we feed, clothe, and care for them each day... they will be our REAL children. 


9. What if they miss their biological family? 
It is perfectly natural and welcomed in our home for our children to talk about their birth family. We are and plan to continue to grieve with them and tell them as much information as we can. 


Consider this...
I spent a few hours with this little girl.... and, I can tell you without a doubt that I love her just as much as anyone could love their biological child. I long for her... and weep for her. 

This little girl was abandoned, left in a dumpster to die... but she was rescued! 

Lord, we commit our lives to You, to Your plans, not our own. We, again, commit to these two little girls... whether they come home in 10 days, 10 months, or 10 years! 




The Ucherek’s

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Mother's Day Weekend Thoughts from a Momma-to-Be!

Friday night I attended a fabulous baby shower for a good friend, Cari that I used to work with. It was beautifully decorated with a small group of ladies and I had my eye out for some great baby items! This was the first shower I've attended since being in the 'expecting' stage... so, I paid more attention than normal! :) (If you read this blog for any length of time, you'll get an idea of my attention span!)
This night made me realize how much I missed my dear friend and how much she had taught me 5 years ago when we worked together about being a wife and mother. Cari is a young mom who truly lives a simple, frugal life... and for her witness I am truly thankful!

Saturday brought an amazing day of serving a dear friend who needed some work done on her house. When Dan and I were praying about doing a Both Hands project for an adoption fundraiser, we approached our small group (YAC)... a group of young, active, incredible parents... to get their opinions. We were absolutely OVERWHELMED at their response - they not only wanted to help the widow we had on our hearts (James 1:27), but also wanted to help out 2 single moms in need. So, my friends, that's what we're doing.
Project #1 was this past Saturday - we replaced a door, fixed an electrical outlet, fixed crown moulding, trimmed an attic ladder, patched drywall, and painted like crazy! It was a beautiful site to see all these hands and feet in action! (Pictures below)
To my dear friend Jane, thank you for pouring your life into your children, for being there for them through it all, God is using you and has a plan for you! Thank you for allowing us to play this small part!

Sunday was a great day spent with family, honoring the ladies in our lives!
Our incredible pastor had an amazing sermon! He mentioned several things that had been on my heart all week -
     -If you are not married or don't have children, God has a plan for you!
     -If you are married without children, you are still a family and God has uniquely equipped you!
     -If you are a step parent, God can use you! (Thank you, John, for the sacrifices you made for me!)
     -If your mother has passed away and Mother's Day is difficult for you, God can heal your wounds!
     -If you are a single mother, pouring everything you have into your family, God will bless you! (Jane              & Kim - you amaze me!
  
Dan and Ken putting in the door.


Christie T and I painting
Colin and Jane painting


Christie T & Janice


Marty and Colin talking about... you don't want to know! 

Elise - thanks for your help sweet pea!



God has uniquely equipped each one of us, to use our skills and abilities for His plans and His purpose! Thank you YACers for living your faith out loud!


The Ucherek’s