Thursday, May 13, 2010

Fearful Adoption Questions

Why fearful? Because we ask these questions out of our own fear... so, we are here to show you how God answered all of these questions, when we had them! 

1. What if I can't love them as much? 
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall    not perish but have eternal life." John 3:16

2. What if they don't love me? 
"He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not." Isaiah 53:3

3. It costs too much! 
If your child was kidnapped and the ransom was $30,000... what would you do? 
The cost of our adoption PALES in comparison to the price He paid for mine! 
"The ransom for a life is costly, no payment is ever enough" Psalm 49:8

4. What if they don't 'fit in'? 
We are aliens in a foreign land... called to live IN this world but not to be OF this world! 
"We are aliens and strangers in your sight, as were all our forefathers. Our days on earth are like a shadow, without hope." 1 Chron. 29:15

5. Won't this change your life forever? 
Lord, break our hearts for what breaks yours.... that's what we've been praying and this is where He led us. So, yes... it will change our lives forever. In fact, we're absolutely certain that these children will teach us more than we could ever teach them! 
"Listen, I tell you a mystery: We will not all sleep, but we will all be changed" 1 Corin. 15:51

6. Isn't it too much to give up? 
This world is not our own, we are bought with a price!
"Then Jesus said to his disciples, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me." Matt. 16:24

7. What about biological ties? 
Joseph was not Jesus' biological father, yet he took him in despite the chance of him being ridiculed. 
"When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife." Matthew 1:24

8. What about their 'real' family? 
God has already etched our children on our hearts, He is binding our hearts together. As we feed, clothe, and care for them each day... they will be our REAL children. 

9. What if they miss their biological family? 
It is perfectly natural and welcomed in our home for our children to talk about their birth family. We are and plan to continue to grieve with them and tell them as much information as we can. 

Consider this...
I spent a few hours with this little girl.... and, I can tell you without a doubt that I love her just as much as anyone could love their biological child. I long for her... and weep for her. 

This little girl was abandoned, left in a dumpster to die... but she was rescued! 

Lord, we commit our lives to You, to Your plans, not our own. We, again, commit to these two little girls... whether they come home in 10 days, 10 months, or 10 years! 

The Ucherek’s


  1. I pray often for these two little girls. Since they first time I saw your photos from your trip and the love in your eyes for these two precious children. I know He has a plan for them, and for you. God Bless you All on this journey.

  2. I was there when you met these girls. My heart breaks for you and for them. As the tears stream down my face, I place each live involved into God's capable hands...

  3. Great post - I am definately sharing!